Recently, I left my cell phone on the bus. Fortunately, the phone was
handed in to the bus driver and was taken to the lost property office at the
bus depot nearest to where I live. The next day I went to the depot to collect
my phone. Now, on the home screen of the phone was a photo of myself, taken in
July 1991. I am seen at the summit of Diamond Head, at Waikiki, on the Hawaiian island of Oʻahu. I am wearing a T-shirt to prove it. (LOL.)
Anyway, the man at the lost property office
brought out some phones. I pointed to the one that was mine and said, ‘That’s my one.’ He looked at the photo on the home screen and said, ‘Is this your son?’ Now, I wasn’t
at all taken aback. I simply said, ‘No, that used to be me.’ I was then 36.
I remember seeing a TV show around 1983 in which the American singer Patti Page sang a song
‘The Person Who Used to
Be Me’.* In this song Ms Page contrasted her then present self with
black-and-white images of a much younger Page projected on a screen behind her. The images were from some of her 1950s TV shows.
Here are some of the lyrics from the song:
Who is that person on the
screen?
I am sure it is someone that I’ve
seen.
Though it's been so very long
And I could be very wrong
To believe that the face I see
Is the person who used to be me.
Time can play tricks on me, I know.
I have trouble now remembering the show.
Yet I’m sure I know that face
From some other time and place
That is lost in the used-to-be.
It’s the person who used to be me.
Now, do you really think you are the same person you were 5 years
ago … 10 years ago ... 20 years ago? Well, in one sense you are, but in another
sense you are an altogether different person both in body and in mind. Even
your sense of self this very moment is different from your sense of self
10 minutes ago, or 10 seconds ago, let alone 10 or more years ago. Your sense
of self is undergoing constant change as a result of every new experience. Buddha taught that
the so-called ‘self’ is only an ‘aggregate’ or ‘heap’ of thoughts, feelings, perceptions,
sensations and memories. The self, in the words of Manly Palmer Hall, is nothing more than ‘a
summary of what is known and what is not known’.
Each one of us
is a person who recognises that there was, yesterday, and even before
then, a person whose thoughts, feelings and sensations we can remember
today, and THAT person each one of us regards as ourself of
yesterday, and so on. As a result of this, we create a sense of self. We even
come to identify with that self as us … as you and me. Nevertheless, our ‘self’
of yesterday consists of nothing more than certain mental occurrences which are
later remembered as part of the person who recollects them.
Here is a short ‘sense of being meditation’ which I penned many years
ago. It is designed to assist you in the task of dis-identifying with ‘the self’:
I am a person who has a
body, but I am not that body.
I am a person who has a brain, but I am not that brain.
I am a person who thinks thoughts, but I am not those thoughts.
I am a person who feels feelings, but I am not those feelings.
I am a person who senses
sensations, but I am not those sensations.
I am the reality of me ... the person who I am.
I am not my sense of
self ... the false and illusory ‘I's’ and ‘me's’ which well up and later
subside within me ... from one moment to the next.
Yes, you are a person ... a person among persons ... a
vital part of life’s self-expression. You are a person who sees, thinks, feels, senses and acts. More
accurately, you are a person in which there occur, from moment to
moment, the various activities of seeing, thinking, feeling, sensing and acting.
P F Strawson, pictured, a British philosopher, wrote much on the subject of the person. He articulated a concept of ‘person’ in respect of which both physical
characteristics and states of consciousness can be ascribed to it. Each one of
us is a person among persons—a mind-body complex.
The point is this. We are much, much more than
those hundreds of waxing and waning ‘I’s’ and
‘me’s’ with which we tend to identify as 'us' in the mistaken belief that they
constitute the ‘real me’, that is, the person each one of us is. Only the latter is ontologically real. None of those waxing and waning ‘I’s’ and ‘me’s’ are the real person each of us is. Never forget that!Personal freedom, as
well as personal transformation, come when we start to see, think, feel, act
and live from our personhood as a person among persons. We need to get our mind off our temporary,
ephemeral ‘selves’. We need to rise above them if we are to get real. Self
can’t change self. Why? Because self is image inside a person. It is not the real person at all. The person each one of us is can indeed change—and change for the
better—if we want, that is, really want, change more than anything else and are prepared to go
to any length to get it.
Finally, please also remember
that there is no human problem that’s not common to other persons among persons.
* ‘The Person
Who Used to Be Me’: [from] Here's TV Entertainment / lyric by Buz Kohan;
music by Larry Grossman. Fiddleback Music Publ. Company, Inc. & New Start
Music. 1983. All rights reserved.
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